Everybody, no matter how spiritually tall, has their bad days. It does not matter how good a person you are or how emotionally intelligent you are, the dark days come. Sometimes they sprout out of known causes such as relationship problems and worldly troubles that knock you into the ditch of life. Sometimes the dark days appear out of the blue, without rhyme or reason, leaving you scratching your head as to why you feel the way you do. You generally know when you have a dark day, or multiple dark days together, as everything in your life is shitty. Your life, the world, life as a whole – it’s all a shitty mess and the only thing you can do is close the door, pull the curtains closed and retreat into the comfort of your duvet. In these times, if there is a God, he/she/whatever has clearly abandoned you to the crud of life, otherwise you would not feel as bad as you do. Dark days feel really low.
Life Is Difficult
I have had, and will continue to have, many days like this. You cannot live in today’s world with it’s emotional, mental, physical and spiritual struggles without at some point feeling some kind of despair and despondency. It’s natural. If life were easy, if no one had to worry about finance, food and dwellings and everyone loved everyone we could live 100% in bliss, but life is not like that, it’s difficult. As humans we have gone from living in caves beating animals round the head with clubs to putting men on the moon and sending machines to Mars. The planet we live on is spinning at 1000mph in a cold vacuum called space which is –455 degrees Fahrenheit (very cold), while at the same time circling a burning star that’s hotter than 27 million degrees Fahrenheit (very hot).
It’s mind boggling that anything is alive at all given the above facts, and yet here we all are. The planet we live on, called Earth, is around 4.5 billion years old and modern humans only evolved about 200,000 years ago. Civilization, as we know it, is only about 6,000 years old. Humankind’s evolution is stupefyingly fast compared to the age of the universe and our own habitat. It’s no wonder, that at times, some of us will feel lost, confused and stressed.
Sometimes Your System Needs To Restart
So when dark days come and we are knocked off the road of life we need to accept it as part of the journey of being alive. We are made up of so many aspects such as animal/physical instincts, consciousness, emotional and mental faculties, and sometimes it all gets too bloody much. So when you’re having a down day, or multiple down days, just let it happen. Trying to stave off these types of dark periods is like trying to hold back the sea with your fingers. It is just not going to happen. What is needed is the ability to go with the flow and allow yourself to sink into the gloom without fighting it. Don’t worry you will pop out again as good as new. Like a computer your system (the whole of you, (emotional, mental and spiritual), needs to reboot. It needs to shut down for a while and restart.
The problem arises with our fighting against it. We do this because we suffer from the delusion that we should feel good, all the time, and when we don’t something must be wrong. Humans don’t like to feel low. The good feelings yes, but the bad no. So when we have a dark day we mentally sprint all over the place chasing answers and solutions that don’t exist. As a rule we don’t fully understand ourselves and the depth of our inner workings. We tend to operate from the top pinnacle of our consciousness which is like the tip of the human-experience-iceberg.
Nature Vs Society
Society has expectations on you. It requires you to act, feel and live according to ways society has laid down that will be best for that society to advance and prosper. Nature, on the other hand, does not give a flying bats dropping about what society expects or wants. Nature can have a completely different set of expectations and it will not take no for an answer. The dark days and low times will come like waves that crash onto the beach, and like waves the dark days will ebb away on their own accord. This is a natural way for humans to let go of the trash and refresh. Our job is to allow the process to happen, even when it goes against our desire to experience something different. I’m not talking about a persistent low mood or depression here. Dark days are very different, they are usually emotionally low-mood-sharp-shock attacks that have a steep drop off and they can last for 1 to 3 days. An extended period of low mood is considered to be a type of depression that requires some form of action.
Trust The Process
The best action to take when dark days hit is to watch telly, eat ice cream and stay in your pyjamas. Allow the process to complete itself without you getting involved. Trying to understand the ‘whys and the wherefores’ is just an additional headache you give yourself that does not make the process any faster. Don’t beat yourself up, it’s natural to feel low sometimes and we all experience it. Trust your own system, it knows what it’s doing. We can be grieving stuff that we don’t even remember or have never acknowledged from the past, we can be processing and get rid of the stress of daily living and lots of other valid reasons for feeling the way we do. Like a pressure cooker our systems need to let off steam, this can be done in little emotional outlets as time goes by such as a loss of temper or angry outburst or a teary afternoon. Or, as in a dark day, in one big release that clobbers you.